yes, a spank on the butt was normal years ago, now it’s abuse or your making the child afaid of you.
Today kids do not care there is not much you can do to punish them. When I was a kid in school, when I did something wrong I worried more about what my parents would do when they found out. Now kid say call my parents and they stick up for me.
We were raised in days where if you misbehaved, you got a belt, switch, stick, or hand to the behind. Today, that’s considered child abuse.
I also remember the teachers smacking hands with wooden rulers. Now the students are beating the teachers up.
Children used to be a precious responsibility. Parents would make it a priority in their lives, and see it as a joy, to raise a child to be a contributing, effective and responsible member of society – this was accomplished through consistent discipline, family values and morals and instilling a sense of self-responsibility and self-control in the child.
Today, children are an accessory to the parents’ lifestyle. Children aren’t being given the attention they need because their own parents are too self-obsessed. They are not given the discipline and boundaries they need because their parents are too lazy – hey, didn’t you get the memo that childrearing requires effort? Children are being taught that they have no control over their own behaviour and that nothing is their fault – if they behave inappropriately they can take a pill to fix it, and if that doesn’t work, well, gosh darnit, we can’t blame you! Instead, we will start an organization to make society or TV to blame for it or change society’s view to accept the behaviour as a valid form of self-expression!
I am not speaking of every family out there – I have met some very polite, friendly and well-adjusted children. Unfortunately, they are not in the majority.
The one thing that all the “nice” kids have in common are attentive, focused parents. These parents take responsibility for their children and the way their children behave. They prioritize their children. They make sure their child knows their manners, is provided with consistent discipline (and are not afraid to use it) and they spend time with their children – this doesn’t mean chauffering your child around to friends and activities or being in the same house as your child watches TV for hours on end. Imagine interacting, playing, working with and genuinely enjoying your child while giving them space to experience responsibility of self and society.
So, my answer is yes – it has changed.
Yep they have. 50 years ago, parents used to raise their kids, now, institutions called daycares do that for us.
Aaaaaaaaand, oh yeah – disciplining your kids is now considered as abuse.
What a world, what a world.
Edit: Just an FYI —- I was spanked as a kid – guarantee ya that when I did something wrong and was spanked for it – I never did whatever it was again. Same with my kids. Once they’re spanked for something, they don’t do it again.
A lot has changed. People can say all they want that things got worse, that may be true, kids are definetly more spoiled now but there are ways to still raise your kids properly.
me now…
I can be wrong, I can deal with mistakes, and I am not perfect.
when I was a new mother, I thought I knew it all… I was sure I was never wrong, and that my ideas about raising kids were the only correct ones.
When I made mistakes it would devastate me. I would feel that I was an unsuccessful mother. My mistakes were always caused by my thinking I was the picture of motherly perfection.
by lightening up, giving myself and others a break I feel I have become a better parent.
I love how everyone wants to say the big difference is people used physical punishment in the past and not now. Do some research…over 90% of TODAY’S parents spank. That’s right folks…the majority of today’s parents spank.
These days, more families have two working parents leaving less time for family. I don’t think parents today spend as much time playing with their kids and just having down time. When parents aren’t working, they are running their kids all over the place to different activities rather than just hanging out at home and playing a board game with them.
I also believe that discipline is lacking (discipline…not spanking). More parents are working which also leads to more tired parents who rather give in than deal with an unruley child. Then you have parents who just don’t know how to discipline.
And of course this opinion will be in the minority since the majority of people spank….I believe that parents today don’t have a clue how to discipline because all their parents did was spank. It’s all the past spanking that has led to uneducated parents who don’t know how to discipline using creative techniques that teach a lesson. All they know is what their own parents did which is spank. Unfortunately spanking doesn’t teach anything, it just punishes a behavior. It doesn’t teach a new behavior or let the child know right from wrong. All the past spanking has gotten us to a point where most parents don’t know what else to do BUT spank.
I also believe technology and it’s use among young people has made a difference. Too many parents are happy to allow the TV, computer and video games babysit their child instead of interacting with them.
MANY people no longer discipline or teach their children. They do everything for them and expect others to tolerate their poor behavior. I mean, imagine it, many parents tell their COLLEGE age kids what classes they should be taking. When are they going to let them grow up? Instead of talking to other parents if the 2 kids had a scuffle, they call the police or sue.
I DO see a lot of kids that are wonderful kids. But I also see a lot of misbehavior that I don’t recall seeing 20 years ago (I’m not older than dirt either).
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yes, a spank on the butt was normal years ago, now it’s abuse or your making the child afaid of you.
Today kids do not care there is not much you can do to punish them. When I was a kid in school, when I did something wrong I worried more about what my parents would do when they found out. Now kid say call my parents and they stick up for me.
We were raised in days where if you misbehaved, you got a belt, switch, stick, or hand to the behind. Today, that’s considered child abuse.
I also remember the teachers smacking hands with wooden rulers. Now the students are beating the teachers up.
Children used to be a precious responsibility. Parents would make it a priority in their lives, and see it as a joy, to raise a child to be a contributing, effective and responsible member of society – this was accomplished through consistent discipline, family values and morals and instilling a sense of self-responsibility and self-control in the child.
Today, children are an accessory to the parents’ lifestyle. Children aren’t being given the attention they need because their own parents are too self-obsessed. They are not given the discipline and boundaries they need because their parents are too lazy – hey, didn’t you get the memo that childrearing requires effort? Children are being taught that they have no control over their own behaviour and that nothing is their fault – if they behave inappropriately they can take a pill to fix it, and if that doesn’t work, well, gosh darnit, we can’t blame you! Instead, we will start an organization to make society or TV to blame for it or change society’s view to accept the behaviour as a valid form of self-expression!
I am not speaking of every family out there – I have met some very polite, friendly and well-adjusted children. Unfortunately, they are not in the majority.
The one thing that all the “nice” kids have in common are attentive, focused parents. These parents take responsibility for their children and the way their children behave. They prioritize their children. They make sure their child knows their manners, is provided with consistent discipline (and are not afraid to use it) and they spend time with their children – this doesn’t mean chauffering your child around to friends and activities or being in the same house as your child watches TV for hours on end. Imagine interacting, playing, working with and genuinely enjoying your child while giving them space to experience responsibility of self and society.
So, my answer is yes – it has changed.
Yep they have. 50 years ago, parents used to raise their kids, now, institutions called daycares do that for us.
Aaaaaaaaand, oh yeah – disciplining your kids is now considered as abuse.
What a world, what a world.
Edit: Just an FYI —- I was spanked as a kid – guarantee ya that when I did something wrong and was spanked for it – I never did whatever it was again. Same with my kids. Once they’re spanked for something, they don’t do it again.
They haven’t
A lot has changed. People can say all they want that things got worse, that may be true, kids are definetly more spoiled now but there are ways to still raise your kids properly.
parents these days try to be friends.. not parents….
this is a huge problem…
Yes, more than 30 years ago physical punishment was used and thought nothing of; now you have to be careful or CPS will be called.
me now…
I can be wrong, I can deal with mistakes, and I am not perfect.
when I was a new mother, I thought I knew it all… I was sure I was never wrong, and that my ideas about raising kids were the only correct ones.
When I made mistakes it would devastate me. I would feel that I was an unsuccessful mother. My mistakes were always caused by my thinking I was the picture of motherly perfection.
by lightening up, giving myself and others a break I feel I have become a better parent.
I love how everyone wants to say the big difference is people used physical punishment in the past and not now. Do some research…over 90% of TODAY’S parents spank. That’s right folks…the majority of today’s parents spank.
These days, more families have two working parents leaving less time for family. I don’t think parents today spend as much time playing with their kids and just having down time. When parents aren’t working, they are running their kids all over the place to different activities rather than just hanging out at home and playing a board game with them.
I also believe that discipline is lacking (discipline…not spanking). More parents are working which also leads to more tired parents who rather give in than deal with an unruley child. Then you have parents who just don’t know how to discipline.
And of course this opinion will be in the minority since the majority of people spank….I believe that parents today don’t have a clue how to discipline because all their parents did was spank. It’s all the past spanking that has led to uneducated parents who don’t know how to discipline using creative techniques that teach a lesson. All they know is what their own parents did which is spank. Unfortunately spanking doesn’t teach anything, it just punishes a behavior. It doesn’t teach a new behavior or let the child know right from wrong. All the past spanking has gotten us to a point where most parents don’t know what else to do BUT spank.
I also believe technology and it’s use among young people has made a difference. Too many parents are happy to allow the TV, computer and video games babysit their child instead of interacting with them.
MANY people no longer discipline or teach their children. They do everything for them and expect others to tolerate their poor behavior. I mean, imagine it, many parents tell their COLLEGE age kids what classes they should be taking. When are they going to let them grow up? Instead of talking to other parents if the 2 kids had a scuffle, they call the police or sue.
I DO see a lot of kids that are wonderful kids. But I also see a lot of misbehavior that I don’t recall seeing 20 years ago (I’m not older than dirt either).